We see so many brides & grooms jumping off the cliff these days to have that perfect wedding.
This goes to show us that they will be in debt for years to come so if the unexpected comes it will devastate them. We don't live in a perfect world and believe it or not mom and dads can't afford all the things there children want on their big day.. Only 5% of parents now pay for their daughters wedding.
Who Pays for What in a Wedding in 2021?
Lets break down weddings and who pays what in the past, let's take a look at how things stand right now. According to the 2020 WeddingWire Newlywed Report, parents pay for 52% of wedding expenses, while the couple pays for 47% (the remaining 1% is paid for by other loved ones)—so parents are still paying for a majority of the wedding, though couples are chipping in fairly significantly. This does vary based on the age of the couple. Younger, millennial couples (those born between 1981 and 1996) pay for less—42% of the wedding expenses, while parents pay for 56%. On the other hand, Gen X couples (those born between 1965 and 1980) pay for 78% of wedding expenses, while parents only pay for 20%.
The who pays for what breakdown also varies for LGBTQIA+ couples, who pay for 61% of wedding expenses themselves, while their parents pay for 37%.
And if it's a couple's second wedding, they'll most likely foot the bill themselves, paying for 88% of wedding expenses, while their parents chip in for 10%.
From a wedding etiquette perspective, remember that money equals control—whoever pays for the wedding can take an active role in decision-making. This means, for example, that if your parents are paying for a good portion of the event, they should have a say in the guest list, wedding venue and vendor selection, and more. They'll also be listed as the hosts of your event on the wedding invitation.
Now if you live in the real world know we work hard and also pay for our wedding ourselves. In a world that takes two incomes to survive and pay the bills we all need to work hard and do what we can to help each other out.
My opinion is do not jump off the cliff stay with in your means. This is a major event but you don't want it haunting you in bills for the next 20 years so think carefully and although it is one of the most important events in your life it is but one day or one week of the rest of your life.